I am a child of God. How many times did I sing
that children's song when I was younger and actually paid attention to what the
song is saying? We are literally children of our Heavenly Father who loves us
more than we can comprehend. He is the perfect parent who sees us for who we
really are. We have divine nature and infinite worth.
It's sad how much I have to remind myself of that fact. It's so easy to get
down on myself, especially in a world that wants me to think so low of myself.
I recently read a blog post from one of my best friends. She wrote about how we
need to stop comparing our lives to the lives of others and just love ourselves
for who we are. It's a great post- click here to
read it. It made me think about my own life. I had a little self evaluation of
what I do to try to impress others and what I haven't been doing because I'm
afraid of being judged or made fun of.
I came to the realization that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. The only
people I should be trying so hard to impress every day are my Heavenly Father
and Jesus Christ. And they already love me more than I’ll ever understand! My mission president said
something to us in a conference for all the sister missionaries in northern Virginia that touched my
heart. "Please realize that He loves you. He loves you right now. He will
love you- always."
Okay, so if God loves me unconditionally no matter what I do, and if He's the
only one whose thoughts I need to really care about, then why do I judge myself
so harshly? I think that's one of the joys of being a woman. Generally speaking,
women tend to be perfectionists. At least, I know I do. I didn't think I was a
perfectionist until I came out on a mission and was shown all of my
weaknesses.
In the Book of Mormon, it reads, "And if men come unto me I will show unto them
their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be
humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men
that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves
before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become
strong unto them." (Ether 12:27)
As a missionary I've spent a lot of time studying the scriptures and trying my
best to come unto Christ. So because I'm coming unto Him, naturally he's going
to show me my weaknesses that I need to work on. Yeah, thanks. Having quite a
few of my weaknesses shown to me is a bit overwhelming at times. Especially
since one of those weaknesses is perfectionism. I just want those weaknesses to
be turned to strengths all at once! Right now! (Not to mention I'm working on
patience too...)
However, I am always gently reminded that if all my weaknesses
were turned to strengths right now in this moment, then I wouldn’t be humble!!
And I wouldn’t be as able to see Christ’s grace working in my life. I don’t
know about you, but I seem to pray a lot more when I’m struggling with
something compared to those times in my life that are going great and
everything is all butterflies and rainbows. After I make it through my trials
and overcome my weaknesses, I look back on my life full of gratitude every
time. I’ve learned that Christ’s grace is sufficient for each and every one of
us, and I’m always going to be learning how to apply it more in my life.
In overcoming my weakness of perfectionism, I’m learning how to
love who I am the way I am- while still doing what I can to constantly improve.
I know that I won’t be as smart, as thin, as witty, as creative, as others out
there, but hey. There are always going to be people better than you! And that’s
okay! When we see the good qualities of others, we can let it either discourage
or inspire us! I hope you choose to be inspired. So long as you are constantly
improving yourself, you can find satisfaction. “No matter how many mistakes you
make, or how slow your progress, you’re still way ahead of everyone else who
isn’t trying.” (I can’t remember who said that…)
What really helps is remembering that you are a child of God who
loves you. “He does not give you challenges that you cannot surmount. He will
not ask more than you can do, he may ask right up to your limits so you can
prove yourselves. The Lord will never forsake you.” (Joseph B. Wirthlin 1989
Ensign)
My missionary companion, Sister Lamborn, shared this quote with me
that she heard someone say at church, “Don’t compare your behind the scenes
with others’ highlight reels.” Just remember that no one’s perfect. The only
One who is already suffered and died to help you overcome your weaknesses. I
read a talk called, “Becoming Perfect in Christ” from the July 2014 Ensign that
really helped me. It changed my perspective a lot. Click here to read.
Our living prophet, Thomas S. Monson, said
to the women of our church, “My
dear sisters, your Heavenly Father loves you—each of you. That love never changes."
In my last area my companion, Sister Udall, showed me a passage from the book, You Are Special, that her mom
included in one of her letters. It's about toys that were made by the toy
maker, Eli. Every time the toys had a positive thought toward another toy, a
star shaped sticker would stick to that toy, while every time they thought
negatively, a dot would stick. (At least that's how it was explained to
me...haha. I've never actually read the book before. I really want to though!)
There's one toy named Punchinello who had
lots of stickers on him. He went to Eli for help.
"Everyday I've been hoping you'd
come," Eli explained.
"I came because I met someone who had
no marks," said Punchinello.
"I know. She told me about you."
"Why don't the stickers stay on
her?"
The maker spoke softly,
"Because she has decided that what I think is more important than
what they think. The stickers only stick if you let them."
"What?"
"The stickers only stick if they
matter to you. The more you trust my love, the less you care about their
stickers."
"I'm not sure I understand."
Eli smiled. "You will, but it will
take time. You've got a lot of marks. For now, just come to see me every day
and let me remind you how much I care."
Eli lifted Punchinello off the bench and
set him on the ground.
"Remember," Eli said as the
Wemmick walked out the door, "you are special because I made you. And I
don't make mistakes."
Punchinello didn't stop, but in his heart
he thought, I think he really means it. And when he did, a dot fell to the
ground.
God loves us. If you EVER doubt it, take it up with Him.
Seriously. The next time you are mean to yourself or start comparing yourself
to others, find a quiet spot away from distractions and simply ask God if He
cares. As Him if He loves you. You may be thinking, “Well, I already know God
loves me so why would I need to ask Him again?” Because it’s far easier and
spiritually healthier to maintain that knowledge of His love than it is to
forget and have to retain it.
Strive to always remember the words of one of my favorite
childhood songs, I am a child of God. And never forget it. :)
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